Every one wants an exciting sex life however many couples discover their passion for each other slowly fades after a while. The initial hormone induced feelings of lust fueling many seemingly endless nights of lovemaking do eventually weaken. This does not mean your intimate times together need to be routine or boring. As you get to know each other more, it is actually the perfect opportunity to spice up your marriage with more intimate thrills. Take the risk to add a little creative sexual adventure and you will rediscover an excitement that will reignite your passion for life and each other.
- Read erotica together. Although the juicy letters in many adult magazines are great for quick fun, higher quality short stories and novels provide a richer source of erotic inspiration to stimulate mutual fantasies and real life activities. The settings and situations described may even stimulate a bit of role playing. Take turns reading out loud to each other. You will get more comfortable talking about sex and your own desires as well. Check out the Black Lace book collection for some great examples.
- Watch spicy and romantic movies alone together. Dirty movies have their place for bedroom fun but engaging movies with plots, characters, exotic situations and risqué adventure stimulate your minds more. Dedicated cuddle time watching a movie together helps to develop closeness with shared ideas for your own fun. The key is to discuss the movie before and afterwards to reinforce an awareness of how it stimulates each others desires and fantasies.
- Play couples games together. There are many adult, romantic, relationship and foreplay games available but any game for two will do. You can even add sexual forfeits to spice up your own favorite games. Go beyond just stripping and include an entire range of erotic treats to win. Add a sense of competition and reward good play with exceptional foreplay.
- Stimulate all your senses. Take a night and indulge in creative ways to enhance your lovemaking by focusing on various senses one at a time. Sound may involve background music, talking dirty or even absolute quiet. Scent in the form of perfume, cologne, incense, flowers and even food can be used to awaken or instill long lasting emotional memories and feelings. Seeing each other naked or dressed in sexy clothing under the soft glow of colored lights, candlelight or moonlight can add to your visual excitement. Experiment with different textures or touching techniques to heighten sensitivity over your entire body. Use foods, syrups, liquors and even flavored lubes creatively to stimulate your hunger for other sensual treats.
- Exercise together. Not only does exercise keep you in shape for great sex, it stimulates hormone production that increases your desire for sex. With more energy and stamina, your lovemaking can be more vigorous and last longer too.
- Have random sex. Agree to get lucky in love and take a chance to do something unexpected. Use some form of randomizing technique (dice, spinner, cards, ideas from a jar, lottery ticket numbers, etc.) to choose one or more erotic activities to enjoy. Include some of your favorites, some rare activities and maybe a few new ones that are a little more naughty than usual.
- Plan spontaneous sex. Either alone or together, plan a sexual adventure involving an impromptu meeting and mating. Always have contingency plans in case unexpected situations arise so you are not disappointed. By planning an erotic tryst in advance, you will also keep your mind open for opportunities for wild sex when ever they occur.
- Create a pleasure chest with delightful sex accessories. Beyond the standard sex toys, lingerie and leather, keep your eyes and minds open for regular household items with pleasure potential. Go sex shopping together and search for unique items that could be used for erotic and sensual stimulation. Consider the texture, shape, size, temperature and how it will feel stroking, tapping, scratching, rubbing, etc. on various areas of the body.
- Invest in a private love library. The more carnal knowledge you possess, the more variety you can add to your sex life. On going sex education is a good thing especially when you do it together as a couple and combine it with hands on experience. Make it a practice to buy a new sex book with new tips and ideas once or twice a year. Browse them and read interesting sections together so you are learning at the same time and can support each other trying out new ideas.
- Go out on dates together. Romantic, fun, exciting and relaxing escapes together all add different elements to your relationship. These are not necessarily times you will have sex together but you will definitely improve your overall intimacy and enhance your feelings toward each other.
Make your sex life a priority -- it is an essential component of a happy and successful marriage. It may take some effort but mutual fun and sensual pleasure will ensure your love lasts a good long time.
